Posts by Anony Mous

  • Lace83
    27

    I want a marriage mate that’s a brother

    by Lace83 in
    1. social
    2. relationships

    hi, my name is leacy and i am 41 years old.

    i live in california.

    i attend the rancho santa margarita congregation.

    1. Ugot2bekiddingme1
    2. stan livedeath
    3. joe134cd
  • Anony Mous
    Anony Mous

    I actually check a lot of your boxes—except for eye color. Tragic, I know. And then there’s that whole pesky California-to-here distance thing and the fact I haven't had multiple partners in quite some time… polyamory thrives on flexibility though, and you didn't exclude that possibility...

    I'm technically still a JW, so I even check that box, but I've stepped into a world where many ‘no’ turn into ‘why not’ - stepping outside your comfort zone isn’t just freedom, it’s an awakening.

    But hey, why not stick around and dive into the discussions here? The best connections (romantic or otherwise) tend to come from shared stories, I'm sure you have some questions, changes and doubt you want to share and ask about.

    And in the mean time, feel free to ask for some references to places that can give you some relief (and education) for your desires, from what I hear, guidance now says those are no longer prohibited.

  • Truth and Justice
    9

    Any reason for my mother and I not to go back, this is one of them.

    by Truth and Justice in
    1. jw
    2. friends

    hi to all, i have been away from the organization since the 1980's and as it seems, i haven't missed a thing.

    i have seen a deterioration take place that is continually getting more dramatic than i have ever seen.

    the thumbing down or the minimizing of spiritual food is reason enough that people are starving for something good.

    1. MeanMrMustard
    2. Duran
    3. Anony Mous
  • Anony Mous
    Anony Mous

    She may be trying to open a door. The Internet has helped many of us to come to a ‘better understanding’. If you are looking to rebuild that relationship, write back to her, not about doctrinal issues but the things she missed, children, progress etc, 45 years is a long time.

  • FreeFallin
    37

    serena williams

    by FreeFallin in
    1. watchtower
    2. scandals

    not really a scandal, but serena williams doing the crip walk on national tv wtf .

    1. Anony Mous
    2. liam
    3. liam
  • Anony Mous
    Anony Mous

    Again, renaming a few things because they got in legal trouble doesn’t change the fact, you said it yourself

    many are coming back to be able to talk to family

    And there is the problem. What if you don’t want to be associated with a non-Christian cult? What if you are member of another church? This seems like pure emotional blackmail to boost their numbers.

  • FreeFallin
    37

    serena williams

    by FreeFallin in
    1. watchtower
    2. scandals

    not really a scandal, but serena williams doing the crip walk on national tv wtf .

    1. Anony Mous
    2. liam
    3. liam
  • Anony Mous
    Anony Mous

    @liam: What evidence do you have that they truly changed their ways. The disfellowshipping arrangement is still in place, the 2 witness rule is still in place, social control is still a thing. Can you honestly tell the elders that you are posting here on apostate websites and get away with it?

    A few minor adjustments in the style and dress is insufficient, they have always done that, as long as it attracts some followers.

  • FreeFallin
    37

    serena williams

    by FreeFallin in
    1. watchtower
    2. scandals

    not really a scandal, but serena williams doing the crip walk on national tv wtf .

    1. Anony Mous
    2. liam
    3. liam
  • Anony Mous
    Anony Mous

    @Liam: Read some of MY recent posts please. Elders and other hardcore JW are TODAY screwing with people's lives.

    I agree many have 'slowed down' since COVID, but COVID is only 4 years ago, not 25-35y as you seem to imply.

    My oldest is 18, my second oldest is 13, the latter is definitely being impacted by strict JW rules and threats of disfellowshipping and fear getting kicked out of the house if they don't toe the line. The older one was taken from me 18 years ago by a cabal of JW elders and family and to date, they don't know we found each other recently - that is what a JW today does to me, I know who knows, most are still an elder today, 15 elders across at least 3 congregations knew, I'm sure there was a detailed record that traveled with me to the next 3 congregations as I was "counseled" when I got to my new congregation about my divorce.

    Various 'pioneer' wives, people that were supposed to be my "family" and raised me, none of them have come forward, some of them died taking the secret to their graves, I was 5 years an active JW ministerial servant on my way to elder AND THEY KEPT IT A SECRET to avoid the 'scandal' because some uber JW's kid or their parents or the elders may have lost some privileges for a few months.

    They didn't tell me when I was a JW, when I left the JW or when I got another child, they know who I am, they have my contact information, legal-technically I am not a disfellowshipped or disassociated JW, so even that is not an excuse.

    A few years ago I posted letters from people that are going through various issues - whether it was ectopic pregnancy or being gay and those were letters to Bethel, read them, that's still how these tribunals are conducted - a 16 or 17yo was asked whose dick did you suck, ectopic pregnancy what does it mean, why didn't you trust in Jehovah and DIE. I was given the same spiel when it came to my 13yo child and blood, I just had a conversation with supposedly very active JW that believe miscarriages are because YOU as a parent did something wrong. Have they changed over the last 10 years, made apologies, set the record straight?

    You have your blinders on, people are still being affected, people are still being sidelined and disfellowshipped and shunned and abused. See the arrests they just made in Pennsylvania, what was it 18 people that are active pedo's.